Saturday, April 26, 2014

No more visiting the D.R.C.

Many parents have been taking trips over to the D.R.C. to visit their kiddos while they wait.
This is not something we have chosen to do for many reasons.
Our agency also makes their way over to the D.R.C. on a regular basis to bring paperwork, investigate cases, and check on our kids.
 
The D.R.C. has officially announced that they will no longer approve travel visas for adoption relation purposes.
This mean parents can not visit their children, and agencies can not do their work to the best of their abilities.
 
We are saddened by this new rule put in place.
Up to this point, we have felt a certain amount of peace knowing that our agency sees our children every few months.
Its comforting knowing that the agency is over their advocating on our children's behalf.
 
It can be scary and overwhelming wondering where this suspension might be headed.
Pray Pray Pray
That's the best thing we can do at this point.

Saturday, April 12, 2014

A Very Special Meeting

A few days ago we were blessed to have a meeting with "K", the woman carrying our soon to be baby.
I woke up Monday morning a little nervous, so far she had not shown up to any of our planned meetings so I was trying not to get my hopes up.
We drove out to Phoenix and arrived at Chilis. 
Shortly after arriving, we got a phone call that "K" was not answering her door or her phone.
Our case worker said she was on her way to the resturant so we waited.
When our case worker got there, "K" was still not answering.
They wanted to keep trying a little longer before they gave up.
 
After waiting about an hour, she answered her door but was not in a great mood.
Her case worker than worked with her for another two hours before they were on their way to the resturant.
We honestly did not mind the waiting at all and were just really happy she still wanted to meet us.
At this point, I was really nervous.
"K" had a rough day and we had no idea what kind of mood she would be in.
 
I saw her through the window as they were making there way into the resturant and noticed that her belly is pretty huge.
Since we did not know the due date yet, I was encouraged by the fact that she looked so far along.
When they got to the table, she politely shook our hands and then immediately started talking.
She was such a chatterbox which was great because there were never any awkward silences.
 
The first thing we learned is that she has very little interest is communicating with the agency.
She started right in showing us ultrasound pictures and telling us about the baby.
She has been to the doctor twice...we had no idea!
She told us the gender which we are not disclosing just yet, the due date, and how her pregnancy is going.
 
The due date is June 23rd.
Due to some health concerns, we are expecting the baby closer to early June, maybe late May.
"K" was very pleasant and sweet.  She was so open with us about her reasons for choosing adoption for her child and I think we both grew to respect her in our short conversation.
She is a tiny little thing and very beautiful!
She has a great sense of humor and is funny.
 
All of my concerns about an open adoption have vanished.
I think she is going to be a wonderful person to have this very special lasting relationship with.
There is our baby!!!!