It seems like whenever I do not know the words to describe how I am feeling, someone comes up with them.
Whether its my husband, or a friend, someone always seems to say exactly what I need to hear.
Jason and Dawn Wright are our wonderful adoption consultants who have been there for us through this whole process.
It has been such a blessing having Dawn's compassionate words and caring attitude even in my "neediest" of moments.
Then when everything seems to fall apart, Jason comes in with some wise words that just calm this mama's heart.
Two families that are working with them have recently had failed matches.
Despite what you hear in the media, when a family is working with a good agency, disruptions are not all that common.
The other day, Jason wrote what has been on their hearts for all of us adoptive parents to see.
I thought it was worth sharing with all of you.
"It's interesting how many people 'weighed in' on what God's plan must have been for us. Believe or n...ot we even had a man say to our face that "Maybe God is trying to tell you that 7 children is enough" right after we heard that USCIS denied our Ethiopian adoption.
I'm NEVER going to try and make an explanation of God's plan. God's ways are WAY too mysterious and amazing for us to really comprehend, and yes, it is possible that God orchestrates certain things to happen that may be difficult for us to walk through (Growth is never easy, right?), BUT, and this is a BIG but, I do not believe that our loving heavenly Father's will is one that causes bad things to happen.
My only way to explain this is to use the example of a tragedy like Columbine. This was NOT God's plan. Human beings who had free will made terrible choices that day. God allowed this to happen because he gave those two young men freedom to wake up and choose to either bless or curse him. They chose the latter. God could have reached down and stopped it, but he chose not to. Not because he's sick, but because he gave us the freedom to make choices.
All this to say, that there are times when humans intervene in what God has chosen to happen and 'derail' the perfect plan he has set forth. I believe that when this happens God ALWAYS grieves and sheds tears for us. He is grieving and knows the pain you are going through right now. He is not pleased with the choices some have made to cause you this pain.
However, He is a God of miracles, and He is ALWAYS going out of his way to bless us continually. The enemy is always (And I mean always) prowling around like a lion looking for someone to devour, and HE IS A LIAR - do not listen to his lies - and he will use many crafty ways to get to you (Maybe even through family, a pastor or close friend). God, however, is victorious, and we are more than conquerors through Christ. God WILL ALWAYS bring redemption, joy from sorrow, PERFECT peace all for His glory. Hold onto the truth that "Joy will come in the morning".
Dawn, our children and I are living testimonies to beauty from brokenness - and HE IS FAITHFUL. Continue in obedience, praising him in the storm even through tears of brokenness, and He will blow you away with his goodness and deep, deep JOY. And I also believe that as you delight yourselves in his Word and truth that HE WILL GIVE YOU THE DESIRES OF YOUR HEART - and he will bring you the amazing treasure of precious children into your arms."
Many people seem to feel that this failed match was God's way of saying no.
The problem with that is, he has been saying yes for years.
He said yes every day of this domestic adoption.
We think its Gods way of saying, "not yet."
We hear Him reminding to
Be still and KNOW that He is God!